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-First, stop bitching. You will bitch no more about anything that you can solve. You will solve it. You will bitch no more about things you can’t control, because you can’t control it. You will accept it. Catch yourself whenever you bitch. Instead, be optimistic about things to a reasonable extent. It might not be true that the future is better, but thinking it is helps a lot. Smile more, the world is here for you and you are here for the world

-Second, sit down and think not what you want to be, but just the “coolest you” possible. This is not the time for fantasy. If you’re scrawny, don’t want to be bulky, it just won’t happen. Work with your scrawniness. Your “coolest you” should have friends because he’s a good guy, not because he’s a sleaze and takes advantage of people. Anyway, start the list: what will the “coolest you” dress like? Act like? What friends does he have? How does he get those friends? What does he eat? What does he drink? What does he think about? What books does he like? Movies? Cuisine? Religion? Everything. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS keep this person in your thoughts and try to be like him at all times. Make every effort to become this person. Even down to the way you laugh, talk, walk, and dance. Practice all of this. Eventually, practice will make habit will make you who you are. If you hate something in your life, move away from it immediately. If you can’t move away from it, get the thickest skin possible towards it.

-Stop caring what people think, within reason. Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter. If someone says “Haha, you’re wearing a purple shirt” you say “damn right I’m wearing a purple shirt, it’s awesome” because you decided to wear it that day, and you did think it’s awesome. Everything else in your life should be handled this way. If you liked it initially, then it’s awesome. Unless a ton of people really don’t like it… then consider changing. When it comes to your unchangeable body, it’s always awesome, no matter how many people say otherwise. You can’t change it, so you better just accept it and move on. There are tons of ugly actors that make it big just because they’re filled with confidence and tell people they look awesome. For some reason people start to believe it.

-Eat healthy and have a workout routine. Nothing fancy. 20 minutes a day of some aerobics. Eat all whole wheats, keep sugar/fats to a minimum. No fast food. Trust me, you can do a lot with this. It’ll keep you feeling good and looking good. Drink water and get 8-9 hours of sleep most days. Don’t sleep in.

-Talk to people. Everywhere. When you’re stopped next to someone, say something about the weather or something you both have in common. Some people will respond, some won’t. Get over it and keep moving forward. Every single time, your thought of how it’s going to go is much worse than what will truly happen. One important idea to internalize is “You do not fail if you get shot down by someone. That is winning. Failing is not approaching them in the first place.”

-When you do something that involves striving for a large, hard to get goal, go crazy. When I wanted to get a retail job, I went out one day with 25 resumes and didn’t come back until I gave them all away. Be massive, overwhelming, unstoppable with everything that matters to you.

-Know that when you take one step, you’re doing the right thing. If you talked to one person one day and they shot you down. GOOD! If you ordered a small fry instead of a normal, GOOD! Life progress is made in baby steps. Pat yourself on the back for every tiny insignificant step you make, and soon you’ll have traveled a mile and not even know it. Sometimes you’ll even feel like you haven’t moved yet everyone around you will see you differently.

-To be a fun person, whenever you get a thought in your head like “it would be fun to…” DO IT IMMEDIATELY! THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS YES! “Every exciting thing in your life happens when you are outside your comfort zone.” Go to that petting zoo you always drive by, go swimming with your pants on… etc. You will learn what you need and don’t need and the next time you do it, you’ll know what to expect. Every chance taken is an experience. Don’t think you need to prepare for anything unless you only have 1 shot at it. If you have more than 1 shot, just do it without any prep. You can bug out whenever you want and come back with fresh eyes. And if you ever get into a horrible situation because of your unpreparedness, it’ll make a hilarious story to tell. Trust me.

-Try not to stress over anything. See your life as a river traveling down a mountain. Any obstacles will either be hurdled quickly, or moved around, without concern or worry. Leave the things that don’t please you and stick hard with those that do. Be efficient and brutal, but take as much caution in not hurting people.